How We Define The “L’s” of Love

Not every romance has an ending, some last a LIFETIME… and for those that don’t, they bring about LOSS, but whether Forever or for a day, every love experienced should bring a LESSON. Here’s to how we define the “L’s” of Love – good, bad, or indifferent.

Of the things I’ve learned about love, I’ve learned to never stop loving.

Falling in love is the most intoxicating feelings I’ve ever known. We all know that time waits for no one and sometimes the timing just isn’t right… Falling in love with someone who is also falling in love with you (at the same time) is a whirlwind and when that person loves just as much and just as deep as you it is almost too good to be true. But you have to believe… grasp it, nurture it, and be ready for it to not always be sunny days… it’s scary, but you can’t win if you don’t play.

So what about theses L’s? These long-term gains or short-term losses, the lessons, the things let-go, and those longed for and obtained…all in the name of love. ❤️

When you’re in love, sometimes you and your love almost end up in a world of your own and other people in your life may take a supporting role as opposed to center stage in your life at that time. If you’re in good hands, they’ll understand.

Along the lines of being “cared for” let’s take a moment to mention the Notable L’s Of Self-Love

  • Listen to your soul – feed it what it needs. Happiness comes from within.
  • Laugh – it lifts your spirits. If you can, do so with those you love
  • Listen – listen to your heart, fuel your positive motivations
  • Look within – remember your strengths

The more you love yourself, the more love you can give to someone else. The more confidence you build within, the more apt you are to help build it within your partner. And the more committed you are to success in living a positive and healthy life, the more prone you are to be dedicated to sharing one you build with your partner.

Everyone needs companionship, and love from another person helps us flourish, but it cannot replace the love we have for ourselves.

Notable L’s of Lasting Love (with someone else)

  • Longevity – it takes the effort of two to make things work Click: To The Man You Need To Appreciate
  • Long Nights – hopefully they’re full of the things that make you both smile, but occasionally they may involve things that make you (and/or your partner) sad, stressed, or concerned. Know that trouble only lasts as long as you let it, and if you put eachother first, trouble shouldn’t last long. Click: Loving True Love
  • Listen – you’re given two ears and one mouth for a reason. Listen twice as much as you speak. Communication isn’t always via speech, but it goes a long way in lasting love.
  • Love Hard – if you aren’t giving your all you’re shortchanging both your partner and yourself. Don’t deprive yourself of something real by holding back your love.
  • Loyalty – a bond has no strength between loves if loyalty is lost. Build it, show it, demonstrate it, say it, rebuild it (if necessary), and never let it disappear Click: How to Love A Loyal Partner
  • Learn – eachother and learn how to get through the tough times. Learn how to love just as hard (if not harder) when things are difficult, as when things are easy.

It’s so easy to love someone when things are perfect and everything’s wonderful. But to love someone when things are difficult, when they’re not being perfect, when they’re messing up, flaws are seen, mistakes are made, i think that’s what really allows you to see how much love really is there. Anyone can love someone who’s doing and saying all the right things, being everything you want and need, when they’ve got it all together, when they have it all figured out, but to love someone at their lowest, to love someone despite how broken they feel, when they’re lost, when you’re willing to stand by them no matter how challenging or difficult things may be, i think that kind of love is a lot more beautiful. I think that kind of love is a lot more meaningful. Source

Notable L’s of Lost Love

  • Look for yourself – You can’t make someone see what they don’t/won’t. You can’t see a future FOR someone else. They have to see it for themselves. If you don’t share the same vision, look for yourself – a brighter future
  • Leap – You can’t heal in the same environment that made you sick. Take a leap into a healthier situation (even if that means being alone) or take a more solid approach to addressing your current situation. And if the love you’ve lost isn’t willing to be a part of the solution, leap away.
  • Lingering Helps No one – Grey-areas = false hope. Recognize that if you’re not all in, then you’re all out. Playing it “safe” by riding the dividing line only adds confusion and could likely worsen an otherwise complicated end.
  • Lick your wounds – some losses hurt more than others. And sometimes we relapse – and sometimes that’s okay. We all heal differently just try to evolve and be a better, more cognizant version of yourself as you do. Healing is a process and it’s not linear… there will be ups and downs, and time heals nothing if we don’t move on with it in a different manner than before.
  • Lessons – be ok with the lessons above. Learn more. Learn as much as you can from dissolved unions. We actually may learn more from our mistakes than our successes.

Sometimes we take losses in love and sometimes those losses are blessings in disguise. Find things to be grateful for in even the most hurtful of L’s.

Perhaps you sacrificed a career move for your significant other and were fearful of that loss and leap… but in the end you gained a strong relationship and a beautiful life with the family you two created.

Maybe you left your significant other and dreaded the loss, but later you met the love of your life. Having stayed in that prior relationship may have eliminated your chances of meeting the one you ended up being happy with.

It just so happens that every “L” is not a loss, but can almost always be a lesson. For every successful relationship there is a lesson of patience and more factors that helped you two grow and get down that path to forever. For every dissolved relationship there should be a lesson at least to recognize what you do/don’t want in the next relationship, and hope that it exists.

Maybe you learn about yourself during the course of the relationship… use those lessons to evolve and to welcome a better, stronger, more secure, permanent love into your life, even if it’s simply a stronger self-love.

And guess what… you will be ok. Living with L’s just means more room for lessons, wisdom and better choices/decisions in the future. Click: Every Promise Doesn’t Work Out That Way

You are in control of your actions, what you allow in your life, how you allow others to treat you, how you treat them, and who you show yourself to be to others. Take those “L’s” and revel in the love you’ve found or immerse yourself in self-love until you’ve prepared for the Love you need.

If you build it, they will come… stay positive, never stop loving – you! That’s the biggest L of all!

~Daily Dose of D’s~

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